Skip to main content

The Fine Art of Passive-Aggression

  Princess hopped up onto the ledge and into the sunbeam.

It was her favourite spot in the whole house on sunny days.

Despite being a black cat, very nearly becoming too hot to the touch after sitting in a sunbeam for any length of time, she loved her sunshine.

The problem this day was that Chester, the other black cat, was already lying on that ledge.

Something Princess had seen and taken note of, but jumped up there anyways.

Perhaps in her old age she didn't care that the ledge was already taken.

Perhaps she thought she could squeeze into the other half of the sunbeam that wasn't already being taken up by Chester.

At any rate, there she was, up on the ledge, a mere three inches away from Chester.

Chester, for his part, was flabbergasted.

Neither of them are cuddle buddies; in fact Princess is very particular about her bubble, preferring a fairly big one around her, all day, every day.

Chester at first was startled at the sudden presence of Princess.  

He looked at her in disbelief; looked away then back again, as if he was having a hallucination.

Nope.  Princess was still there.

Well, this wasn't right, I could see he was thinking to himself.

He did several double takes as if to triple check what he was seeing was indeed real.

He shifted his body, so that his head was facing the other way, still keeping his body tight up against the window where he was originally laying.

Princess held her ground.

She sat down slowly, daintily.  She had made her decision.

I did not see her face to know whether she was blinking her eyes or not; the universal language of cats that says "I am your friend."

But Chester's eyes were not blinking, not closing; although it was bright in that sunshine, he looked at her fully and still could not believe what he was seeing.

Princess continued to sit there, on a small part of the sunbeam, gathering its warmth.

Chester shifted his body again, turning around so his head faced the other direction, never taking his eyes off Princess.

She calmly continued to sit.

I felt as though they would make their peace, have a truce, and enjoy the sunbeam on that ledge together, the few inches between them serving to be enough for a thinner bubble.

There were no ears being pinned, no teeth being bared, and I wasn't close enough to hear if there were any growls, but I doubted it.

Finally, Chester could take it no more.

He lashed out quickly with his right paw - making contact with Princess.

She didn't move.

When that didn't seem to phase her, Chester did the only gentlemanly thing he could do:  he jumped down from the ledge.

He gave up his sunbeam.

He acquiesced.

He could have pushed it; could have used his claws; could have drawn blood, watched the fur fly.

But he didn't.

Princess' quiet presence, her solid determination to sit in that sunbeam, albeit shared, so affected Chester that he gave up the ghost.

I couldn't believe what I had just seen.

The old, wise lady, Princess knew just what to do to goad Chester into giving up her preferred spot.

The wisdom of her age, the experience of her years, through sheer body language, no violence, no utterances, she willed herself to have that sunbeam on the ledge all to herself.

Chester seemed nonplussed as he settled himself down on the floor.

He had lost the sunbeam. 

Princess didn't gloat; she slowly lay herself down fully onto the ledge where she basked in the sunbeam; and her glory.

The sun moved even further over the ledge, and now she had the whole thing to herself.

Chester had to make do with the carpet on the floor, nowhere near the warmth of the sunbeam and probably not as comfortable either.

I had to admire her skill at the art of passive-aggression.

She quietly, steadfastly won; her refusal to move, to give in, so put the fear of God into Chester, that he blinked first.  He gave up his seat.  

She doesn't seem to feel any guilt at all.  In fact, she set about preening herself, slowly cleaning her body and face, languidly removing any trace of Chester's lashing, no fur seeming to be lost.

I am still laughing at the horror in Chester's face as he realized Princess was coming for his sunbeam.

Perhaps he knew it was already over before it started.

That he really only had a few minutes left in the sunshine before he would have to bow to her countenance.

Offer respect to the elderly; his seat on the bus as it were; her senior age of 18 trumping his by three years, which is a lifetime in cat years.

Soon she will be snoring in that sunbeam, on that ledge.

Loudly enough that I will be able to hear it across the room.

And how she doesn't melt is anyone's guess; her black fur absorbing the heat so it is nearing the boiling point.

And that is today's lesson; sometimes a good stare with a well intentioned pose can do wonders in getting what you want, without resorting to fisticuffs or name calling.

A lesson in passive-aggression, courtesy of Princess the cat.


Popular posts from this blog

The Bird

 He fell out of the sky one day last summer, landing at the horse barn. A tiny, bright coloured green, yellow and blue budgie. He was caught and put in a pretty cage in the tack room. And there he stayed. For days. Weeks. Months. A tiny room with a closed door so the barn cat couldn't get in. A cage with only two perches, a water dish and a seed dish. The thought was that his owner would want him back. But despite repeated and numerous attempts to find an owner, none ever showed up to claim him. Perhaps he had escaped through an open window somewhere. Perhaps he was set free intentionally. They can be noisy. I brought him a few seed sticks, where he would get some enrichment having to chew away to get to those tasty treats. I brought him a couple of hanging toys, so he would have something to do and wouldn't be lonely. And then, November came. It turned cold. The heater in the tack room was on high, but it would sometimes get overheated and t...

The Mother Mode

  "Did you bring your gloves?" I found myself involuntarily asking my senior client the other day. "It's really windy out today - don't get blown away!" I then blurted out without thinking that they are a grown-assed adult and don't need to be reminded about that! Least of all from me! I have never had children and am not a birth mother. In my 20's I yearned for children, as one does when one's hormones are in peak form. However, by the time I hit 30, I came to my senses. I had a lovely little career in broadcasting going by that time and didn't want to put that on the shelf to have children. A choice I have never regretted to this day. My maternal instincts have been satisfied doting on numerous pets, however. And more recently, some long repressed motherly instincts are rearing their lovely heads, and I find myself turning into my mother. Something they say all women do, eventually. In a good way. And now, I find I...

From Terminator To Motivator

 Arnold Schwarzenegger is having a moment. I wouldn't call it a comeback. He never really went away. He has always been there - always pumping out movies, advice, his opinions, books, and now a tv show, a comedy action genre shot right here in Ontario. And today, as he celebrates his birthday, I have to admit, I am fan-gurling over the 78-year-old bodybuilder/actor/politician/author/activist/fitness advocate and now motivator.  I somehow stumbled across his latest book, Be Useful: Seven Tools For Life, and I had to read it. His grizzled face on the front cover, almost in a Terminator scowl, not hiding anything, his wrinkles and grey hair there for everyone to see. It is part memoir - part instruction manual to live one's best life. To contribute to society, to make good choices, to work hard and have a servant's heart. One could argue that he took his own advice, having a servant's heart, a bit too literally, after he fathered a child with the househol...